Introduction and Meaning
Good Manners refers to polite, humble, courteous, respectful and well-cultured social behavior. It means behaving nicely and conducting oneself appropriately according to the circumstances.
A man or woman, above everything else, is esteemed and distinguished on account of his or her good manners. A human-being is distinguished from brutes not on account of his intelligence alone but also on account his behavior and manners.
To have good manners means to be polite and considerate in all that you do. Good manners is the respect that you show while conducting towards others. Good Manners also includes a kind of social awareness which means:
- we do not do things that harm people around us,
- we do not cause undue offence to them, or
- we don indulge in acts that allow them to feel upset or uncomfortable.
Importance of good manners
Good manners are important. They demonstrate respect for other people. Further, a well-mannered man is respected and esteemed wherever he goes and esteemed in whatever condition of life he may be. A rich man or a high-pedigreed person, bumped with all titles without good manners, is hated in an ideal society. On the contrary, a poor man, with tattered clothes, but having delightfully good manners is sure to attract everyone’s attention and win everybody’s liking.
Among students in particular, preservation of good manners is a boon. Teachers are fond of well-mannered students, and are willing to help them often. It is a pity that on account of lack of manners in the modern students, an ugly and unpleasant atmosphere of indiscipline has been created. Good manners cost nothing. One the other hand they pay us a lot.
Good manners are important for success at workplaces. The managers want their sub-ordinates to have good etiquette.
Examples of good manners
- Say, “Thank you” when you receive a thing from someone,
- Say, “Please” while requesting for something,
- Say, “Excuse me” to get attention for something,
- Compliment others for their good qualities,
- Always knock the doors before entering other person’s bed-room,
- Be respectful towards your elders, and teachers,
- Be compassionate towards someone who is in pain,
- Listen attentively when someone is talking to you,
- Be courageous enough to accept your mistake and never hesitate to say, “Sorry”.
- Always be ready to help others around you,
- Clean your shoes regularly.
- Always seek permission before touching or using something that belongs to someone else.
- If someone asks a question, try to respond with a smile.
- Do not interrupt in between the sentences when someone is speaking. Instead, wait for your turn.
- Eating quietly and considerately serving other people at the dinner table before serving yourself.
- Ensuring that you give money to the needy with a friendly and respectful smile.
- Be willing to help elderly or infirm people on and off public transport.
We, the dwellers of this land of great and noble personalities, must exhibit above all other things, an ideal force of character through our everyday manners, imbibed with nobility and spiritual sublimity.
It has been rightly said that ‘manners make a man’. Standard of good manners differs from country to country. But one thing is common to all that is to show respect and reverence to all with whom we come in contact.
Edited with inputs from various contributors.